tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post5882655523390905293..comments2024-03-25T20:18:21.478-05:00Comments on Diary of a Stay at Home Mom: The Pink Elephant in the Room......Sandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00448386993712122412noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-77706622237439651882009-07-16T18:08:34.020-05:002009-07-16T18:08:34.020-05:00Good for you! I've hit that point a while bac...Good for you! I've hit that point a while back too ... I'm just going to work on being HEALTHY - not so much on being THIN. My mom is still thin at age 63 - sadly, I take after my dad (sigh). It is hard to have a mom that is smaller than you are - so I'm determined to NOT do that to my own daughter - LOL!! :)Connyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12140942085281292589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-76114041194413330362009-07-16T16:46:51.983-05:002009-07-16T16:46:51.983-05:00Good for you!! I am also coming to a healthier un...Good for you!! I am also coming to a healthier understanding of my eating, weight, etc. Still working on it but getting there.<br /><br />I have about 25 extra pounds that I would really like to be rid of if I could...Donnettahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11692862365425939349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-37292513162851227332009-07-16T16:07:17.280-05:002009-07-16T16:07:17.280-05:00Kudos to you Sandra!! I have felt the same way for...Kudos to you Sandra!! I have felt the same way for a long time. When I hit my late 30's the weight really started packing on. I got up to 160 and then I decided to do something because I really love food and don't want to give that up. I started kickboxing 6 weeks ago and go about 3 times a week. I love it and I have toned up. I feel better about myself but the main thing is I can still eat!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-86090860584496849172009-07-16T14:33:01.471-05:002009-07-16T14:33:01.471-05:00I was never overweight until I delivered my sweet ...I was never overweight until I delivered my sweet baby boy at *alomst* age 40 and gained 50 pounds while pregnant. I lost all but about 10#, and then gained some more back because instead of working out and being active, my hobby became eating and staying at home with my new baby. Finally, I spent about 2 weeks reserching all of the diet theories, what works for who (vegetarian, Zone, Atkins, etc) and also chemsity and physiology of how the body/cells/metabolism actually work, and I came up with my current eating style. During the week I eat fruit + oatmeal for breakfast, a salad with chicken or tuna for lunch and a protein with veggies for dinner. On the weekend....anything goes. Sometimes once during the week I'll eat anything, too (like tonight I am having Mexican). I avoid too much caffiene (google it's affect on insulin>body fat storage) and too much alcoholo or artifical sweetener. I easily maintain 135# and I am 5'10" tall and almost 42 years old. I grew up with a mom who was always dieting (and usually always a little to a lot overweight) and I went the opposite way and was usually very, very thin and so self conscious about food and body image. I feel for you, and all your commentors. It is so hard and you are right - society gives us a hard road to trudge.Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17786838392389718536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-85234517332703048922009-07-16T13:59:47.913-05:002009-07-16T13:59:47.913-05:00Thank you so much for this inspiring post! I am t...Thank you so much for this inspiring post! I am the product of a food-obsessed, calorie-obsessed, diet-obsessed mother. My mother is 76 years old and still trying to get smaller. My sister and I joke and say she is trying to get back to her birth weight! On a serious note, it has negatively affected both me and my sister and at age 45 I still struggle with it. Sometimes I think I overeat to get back at my mother. Oh well..that's a story in itself...but I praise you for thinking of your daughter!Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16037016755051846862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-84882558118313562482009-07-16T10:50:21.878-05:002009-07-16T10:50:21.878-05:00I try not to obsess about my weight, as long as I&...I try not to obsess about my weight, as long as I'm comfortable and feeling good...that said, it is something I've struggled with from time to time. Since my daughter was born it's something I've thought about quite a bit - from the standpoint of trying to set a good example of being healthy and having a good relationship with weight, food, physical activity. Though she's only 2 at this point, it's something that I think I need to practice so that when she does get older I'm prepared to be a good role model. <br /><br />I heard a teen girl make a comment about her weight the other day - she was so skinny and yet was complaining about her thighs. On the one hand, I wanted to say, "honey, your 30 year old self would die for those thighs!" and on the other hand I thought it was sad she was so critical of herself already.Steph at Problem Solvin' Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18195884439651922555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-48254292843853745082009-07-16T10:10:10.109-05:002009-07-16T10:10:10.109-05:00Something we all struggle with! I had to watch my...Something we all struggle with! I had to watch myself when my girls were younger b/c they would say the same thing but were skinny to start with. I try to walk and be active and watch what I eat but it's hard.<br /><br />It sounds like y'all had a fun vacation!gail@more than a songhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03244576462390646213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-89110627523186245412009-07-16T09:44:01.972-05:002009-07-16T09:44:01.972-05:00All I'm going to say is I wish I weighed a 140...All I'm going to say is I wish I weighed a 140lbs. I think it's all relative. I went to the gym for 4 years and didn't drop a pound. But I looked way better because I was more toned and healthy looking and I felt more fit. Clothes sat differently on my frame and I carried myself "taller". Now I'm back to square one with that after a few years off the gym. But this summer hubby and I are going for a healthier lifestyle. More activity. Less sitting around.Susannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02757963698816530787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-34658836637543433972009-07-16T09:26:50.461-05:002009-07-16T09:26:50.461-05:00Bravo!!!!!!!!!Bravo!!!!!!!!!Jenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06703292369408285721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-66544243745721124372009-07-16T09:08:04.443-05:002009-07-16T09:08:04.443-05:00I've never really worried about my weight, but...I've never really worried about my weight, but then again I've always been a runner. It's interesting if you are in to vintage clothing though because women were bigger "back in the day." A size 2 (whatever that means) from the 30s or 40s is probably the equivalent of about an 8 today. Weight aside I don't know why they can't make women's clothing like men's and make the size an actual inch measurement rather than a random number.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-40709803106903322902009-07-16T08:53:57.407-05:002009-07-16T08:53:57.407-05:00your honesty is refreshing sandra! my hubby and i ...your honesty is refreshing sandra! my hubby and i are working on not just losing weight, but getting healthy- not weighing ourselves-because that number will drive me crazy. we have both been going to the gym 4-6 times w/ prayer and encouragement from/for each other :) we have a ways to go, but i love food and cooking too-Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00208559630951130575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-13481658301972606862009-07-16T08:38:35.759-05:002009-07-16T08:38:35.759-05:00I'm currently working on losing weight. I'...I'm currently working on losing weight. I'm almost done with the most amazing program called ChaLEAN Extreme. It's a 90 day program and the food part is awesome. You execrise five days a week and eat a lean and well balanced diet. You don't stave yourself on this program and you will build a ton of muscle. GOod luck.Larahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02276206400127249754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-73819719802273847382009-07-16T07:33:24.445-05:002009-07-16T07:33:24.445-05:00Thank you for sharing, Sandra!!! I constantly batt...Thank you for sharing, Sandra!!! I constantly battle with my weight...during pregnancy I seem to really pack it on no matter what I do...and then I try to lose it after! Considering I've had 5 pregnancies in the last 6 1/2 years or so that has been tough!<br />Like you, though I've come to a place where it doesn't consume me. I just start afresh with healthy eating, portion sizes, & exercise...in fact, I am beginning on August 1st!! <br />Congrats on chucking that elephant out of your home!! HEEHEE! <br />Again, thanks for sharing and pray for all us ladies who do have a bit to lose! :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11291951073853426272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-30268862074967735332009-07-16T07:28:05.241-05:002009-07-16T07:28:05.241-05:00Very wise! And in my book 140lbs is positively ski...Very wise! And in my book 140lbs is positively skinny ;). My mother was constantly dieting and yo-yo-ing with weight when I was a child. Fortunately it never rubbed off on me and I can honestly say that I don't have any issues with food. I admit to sometimes eating too much of it, and I am a bit overweight (170lbs, when I would like to be 150), but I truly enjoy my food! Being thinner would simply not be worth the loss of pleasure in eating for me. Fortunately I don't put weight on easily, as I only weigh about 4lbs more than I did when I became pregnant with my eldest dd 15 years ago. <br /><br />Enjoy those larger portions! Eat moderately and with pleasure, exercise regularly (my downfall!), and you will be fine. People are not meant to be stick thin :)The Bookwormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08139740404665123205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-89850746897266941192009-07-16T07:06:06.029-05:002009-07-16T07:06:06.029-05:00I think that nearly all women in some form battle ...I think that nearly all women in some form battle insecurities over weight. I have two toddlers with a third child on the way and am trying to be acutely conscious of the fact that what I say - and how my attitudes go - directly affects their views of themselves and others. If I can teach my children to enjoy healthy food in moderation and to exercise without giving them specific dimensions that they feel trapped by, I will feel that I have accomplished something.fields of kudzuhttp://www.yeoldehomelyhousewife.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-32948828436762897192009-07-16T06:12:00.430-05:002009-07-16T06:12:00.430-05:00It is so refreshing to hear someone else describe ...It is so refreshing to hear someone else describe my exact feelings. I have struggled with my weight for years. I am the smallest I have ever been right now after 6 years of marriage and 2 children, but I feel the worst. I dont enjoy ANYTHING I eat. I am constantly weighing options in my head trying to figure which has less calories or carbs or whatever. I see other women who are a bit bigger than me but are very happy and confident with who they are and how they look and I really do envy that. Im going to try hard to remember the things you said about eating and do the same. I will keep all of you ladies in my prayers:O)<br /><br />Jolenejolene webbnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-43626791410708335362009-07-16T01:25:52.893-05:002009-07-16T01:25:52.893-05:00Ok ... this post totally hits home with me. I'...Ok ... this post totally hits home with me. I'm re-reading a book that I read not too long ago. You should see if you can get it from your library. It's called French Women Don't Get Fat by Mireille Guiliano. It's a wonderful read. And it talks just about what you are talking about. Slowing down. Savoring each bite. She actually says you get the most pleasure out of the first few bites. It's interesting. It's not a fad diet ... or even a diet book. It is very inspirational to me though ...Bonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01007899936408265596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-70568876476407668152009-07-15T22:57:14.132-05:002009-07-15T22:57:14.132-05:00Sandra,
You will have to stop by my blog and see...Sandra, <br /><br />You will have to stop by my blog and see just how we were on the same mental train today. <br /><br />I too agree with you, that we seriously need to stop beating ourselves up. Our kids don't see us the way we see ourselves and last year I made a huge mistake when I was reading nutritional labels because soon my then 9 year old was reading them along with me, looking for low fat, low sugar, low sodium alternatives. <br /><br />How much fun is there in that?<br /><br />I am content and happy with my overall health at this moment and my weight is simply a number on a scale. <br /><br />Love and Hugs ~ KatHeart2Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05240536955573366802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-35926433083686931832009-07-15T22:34:41.562-05:002009-07-15T22:34:41.562-05:00Hi Dear Sandra,
I can relate to your dd. When I wa...Hi Dear Sandra,<br />I can relate to your dd. When I was growing up my mom qbessed about weight all the time. She went from one diet to another . Then from one gym to another. She was never happy with her weight. Her closet was full of clothes from very small to very large. It made a hugh impact on me. I developed an eating disorder which I still stuggle with to this day.The times she was on the heavy side my dad would say things to me when I ate like watch out or you are going to get fat like your mom. Which now I see what so cruel to my mom and I both.What I was taught in therphy was to be happy with how God made us. I am here to tell you that you are not over weight. I think you look good.<br />Enjoy eating all the wonderful foods you cook.<br />Hugs,<br />ElizabethAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-15242218791698225172009-07-15T22:23:59.374-05:002009-07-15T22:23:59.374-05:00Yup, I am at least 25 lbs overweight and hate it! ...Yup, I am at least 25 lbs overweight and hate it! I cant get motivated to work out by myself I don't know what my problem is. I struggle with my weight each and every day. I feel that I am pretty healthy and have been seriously cutting back on the sweets but it doesn't seem to matter. :(Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07099332243893255567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-84226563220515041702009-07-15T21:24:42.753-05:002009-07-15T21:24:42.753-05:00Sandra - kuddos to you for tackling such a big iss...Sandra - kuddos to you for tackling such a big issue and thank you for being so honest about it. You look wonderful right now! Congrats for taking these steps for yourself, Jasmine and all of your family! Way to go!Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15249778241531235974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-14354257099928203632009-07-15T20:45:20.411-05:002009-07-15T20:45:20.411-05:00What a great post. You look great- and I love tha...What a great post. You look great- and I love that you are doing this not only for you but for Jasmine's sake too.<br />I think almost everyone woman goes through this- lets face it- having kids does a number on your body and so does getting older.<br />I've lost it and gained it and then some more than I'd like to remember.<br />I'd love to be 140 again!~!Cherihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06350979855715095268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-14899462969715204802009-07-15T20:10:36.288-05:002009-07-15T20:10:36.288-05:00Great post! I was 125 lbs when I married at age 3...Great post! I was 125 lbs when I married at age 30. Due to fertility treatments and all the stress that comes with that I have picked up lots of weight. I know that I need to lose some. Not to fit an image, but to be healthy for me and my family. <br /><br />It is a shame that we live in a society that is so obsessed with weight. If someone in the spotlight picks up a few pounds that is all that the media can talk about. No wonder your sweet girl is thinking about weight. <br /><br />Your honesty is one of the things I love about your blog.Wendihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02547001714523524390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-57204304665253552272009-07-15T19:54:16.144-05:002009-07-15T19:54:16.144-05:00Sandra,Both Celesting and I are trying to loose we...Sandra,Both Celesting and I are trying to loose weight,via the portion control method.we are mamanging to do that.I have lost a total of 20 lbs than put 5 back on again.(darn yo-yo)Celestine has mananged to lose 30 lbs.we both have a ways to go yet.Mike Golchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14472496241893921107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271473.post-84257008627734660042009-07-15T19:53:32.411-05:002009-07-15T19:53:32.411-05:00It's a wonderful realization, but you just hav...It's a wonderful realization, but you just have to be careful and not swing too far in the other direction. I think a good balance is to eat healthy and everything in moderation (except for veggies- pig out on those veggies!), and to stay active, then just not think about it. I could care less what society says about how I should look, but I don't FEEL good... I don't feel good about myself, I don't feel healthy. So I'm working on it without it becoming a starvation to get super skinny kind of thing. Good luck!<br /><br />PS I can't remember the last time I was 140. I would LOVE to be 140.Brandisleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12302913633451638028noreply@blogger.com