Day Twelve:
"With all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love." Eph. 4:2
Part of the difficulty you may face as you continue in this 30-day challenge to encourage your husband is that you really are struggling to find positive things to praise. Perhaps the problem is not with your husband. Have you checked your own heart?
Sometimes we get disillusioned because of our own unreasonable or unrealistic expectations (Prov. 13:12
). It may not be that our mates are doing something wrong; it's simply that we expect too much in some areas. Our expectations must be met in God alone, and then we will have the right perspective to ask God for the healing and grace we need to respond to others. How sad that we give more grace to others than to those in our own homes. Today, try to look at your husband through eyes of grace. Verbally thank your husband for what he is already doing.
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I think this is an easy one to fall into. How many times have I asked my husband for help with something and then proceed to redo it and tell him that it was done wrong? Putting dishes away, loading the dishwasher, helping unpack the groceries?
Any of those ring a bell???
I've done it before, but I really need to remember to NOT see it as wrong, just see it as he does things differently than I do. And instead of telling him it's not the right way, I need to remember to thank him for helping me and wanting to give me a hand.
You are so right! The other thing I do that is similar is not ask him for help, and then get irritated because he's not helping me!
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ReplyDeleteI can relate to this as well.
ReplyDeleteI think everyone must be guilty of this at some point. But I am in agreement with Mari, I'm terrible for not asking for help and then feeling annoyed for not receiving any.
ReplyDeleteThis has really been opening my eyes to how scarily easy it is for negative things to slip out without any thought. I'm sad that it's been such a struggle at times but I am starting to feel the change in myself and the way I talk to my husband. I'm seeing a change in my husband too now, yesterday he thanked me for not getting upset with him over a budget issue. That was pretty big for both of us I think as money was the only thing that could really cause conflict between us.
Anyway, I like this post I know I could do some work on not feeling that my way is the right way all the time!