{ Me day....because we all need them }

Every Friday, I tune out from the world and give myself a me day.

That may seem crazy to some of you, or even downright insane.  Thing is, from a very early stage in our marriage and with small kids, my husband and I decided that it was fair, it was needed, in order for me to continue being the best wife, mother and homemaker I could be.

I know the very first thing you think is, "but how, where do you find the time, I can't even go to the bathroom without kids banging on the door".  I know, I've been there, done that, wasn't pleasant and I can say that I get it, I understand, I more than anyone knows that by the time your husband walks in the door from work, you are ready to either drown yourself in some very good wine, or pack your bags and run very very far away from the chaos.

As a woman, as a wife and mother and homemaker, we need to nurture ourselves, and far too often that is neglected because chores, and because kids, and appointments, and errands, and school and more dirty dishes piling up and never ending laundry.

I got to a point where I felt like I was losing myself.  Even to this day if you have to ask me flat out "who are you, what do you like doing?".  I'm not quite sure how to answer that, because I've always been mommy.

So do yourself a favor, set some time aside and start taking a moment for yourself.  It doesn't have to be long.  I started with an hour after dinner.  My husband would play with the kids downstairs, it was their bonding time, and it was my time to take a shower without feeling rushed, and then sit in bed and read for a little, or enjoy a cup of coffee uninterrupted and while it was still hot, or even watch a quick episode of something.

As they got older, it got easier, obviously, they didn't need as much attention as before.  Now that they are about to turn 18 and 14, they need me even less, and so "me time" is much easier to come across.

Friday's are MY days!!!

I do what needs done in the morning and then it's time for me to indulge in anything and everything that calms me down, that renews my soul, that recharges the batteries and gives me the energy I need to get up the next day and get right back into homemaker mode.

I read, and I mean really read, without interruptions and having to constantly put the book down to tend to this or that.

I crochet and don't have to worry about recounting stitches, because I've been interrupted numerous times and the same row I've been working on for the past two days, is not making it past the 10th stitch without me having to recount or sometimes pull apart and start over.

I watch shows, I watch movies or go on Pinterest and spend an hour or so pinning things I'll probably never get around to trying, but nonetheless.

Today, I updated my blog sidebar.  I went back and added some of my favorite blogs, and it brought me so much joy looking back on old favorites from way back in the day.

Can you believe that next month I'll be celebrating 11 years of blogging?  Where has the time gone?

Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that if you aren't already taking time for yourself, however little it may be, then please do yourself a favor and do it.  You have to.  I promise you once you start doing this you will go into your days as a mother and wife, with renewed dedication. 

You won't run out of patience as fast, you will feel better about your job and you won't feel so lost and so completely out of touch with who you are.

If we don't take care of ourselves, how are we to take care of our loved ones?


Oh and by the way, I wanted to ask y'all what is easier for you when it comes to replying to your comments.  I sometimes reply to you right in the comment section but I don't even know if you are notified about it to realize I've replied.  Would you prefer it I keep replying in the comments or do you want me to come by your blogs instead?

Not to say that I won't come visit you, I fully intend to start doing that on a regular basis, it's just taking me a little to get back into this blogging groove, after all it's been quite a few years since I've blogged properly :)

Just let me know what you prefer and I will be more than happy to oblige :)


I would love to know if you already take time for yourself, and if you do, when do you do it?  Do you have a set day, or a set time in the day for me time?  What do you enjoy doing during those moments, and how do you find the motivation to keep doing what you do as a homemaker?

Leave your comments down below, I really want to chat with you all about this.

Me day!

Hello my friends, how are you doing this morning?  I can't believe it's already Wednesday.

It's one of those days for me, every once in a while I get a day where I feel like I need to decompress and just be myself, do nothing, relax, basically just take care of me.  We know that as mothers and wives and homemakers that is never an easy thing to do because there is so much that requires our attention, but it's so extremely important to take some time for ourselves to recharge, so that we can continue to do for everyone else.

Our busy schedules are finally seeming to slow down slightly.  My husband is now done with his Chemistry class which means no more in school classes, just online.  He still has 3 others to finish off for this semester but I think those will be done in a few weeks.

Homeschooling is winding down too as we get to the end of the year.

But with all these things winding down, something else is kicking off, and that is our upcoming move.

We reached a decision, and after a lot of thought and pros and cons and back and forth, right up until the last minute of starting our loan application, we decided that it's not the right time to buy a house.

So many factors went into this decision, namely we just feel that since he retired but 7 months ago, we need to make sure we are completely financially stable before taking on such a huge undertaking.....and it's not that we're in a bad place, we have excellent credit scores, only have 1 credit card and 1 car payment, but we want to get those two paid off within the next 2 years before buying a house.

Something else that factored hugely in the decision, is the fact that my husband is but 2 classes away from his Bachelors.  Currently he is majoring in Business which is what his career field in the Air Force put him in, but he does not like it.  He is passionate about anything Science and Physics, Chemistry and Astronomy etc.  So, he is going to take this next semester off to relax a bit because it's been very hard on him the past year, and then he'll finish off his Bachelors in Business and then switch his Masters to Science something or other, he is not exactly sure which.

One of his dreams is to join NASA one day and that is what he is working towards, so right now our future is very uncertain, we're not quite sure if we will end up staying in our area forever, or if we may have to move if he gets accepted into NASA etc....because all the jobs he qualifies for within it are either in Virginia or Florida.  I just don't know.  Now it could be that he gets into the University here in Boise in their Science Department too.  But yes, lots of unknowns at this time.

So yeah, renting for the next two years, paying off all our debts and seeing where we'll be staying is our priority right now.  Our dream of owning our own house is just being put on hold for a few more years, and that's ok, we don't want to rush into anything, we would rather play it smart.

That's a bit of what has been going on around here.  I've also had my usual housework, of course, that is a daily occurrence.

Come along with me, let me show you a typical day around here.....

A few of you have asked me about my cute slippers and where I got them, so I thought I would answer that question. I found them at Walmart and they also have purple ones, but I love pink so those were the ones I picked.

Breakfast time, some hot coffee and my favorite Cinnamon Raisin bread, toasted and slathered in butter.  Yum Yum!

Bed making, on Monday's I strip the beds and wash all the sheets.  It's a lot of work but it's needed, I don't like going more than a week without doing it.

To make the chores go faster, I either have music playing on my laptop, or I'm watching some youtube videos while I iron, or I put on my DVR while cleaning my room and catch up on some shows.  Monday I was trying to watch the first episode of Turn, and from what I saw I really liked it, but I have to finish watching that episode plus the new one that just played on Sunday.

Time to water all the plants in the kitchen and dining area.  I like to give them a good soaking and leave them sitting in the sinks for a good while.

Then it's time to pack away the dinner dishes from the night before, and wash the breakfast ones.  It's like laundry to me, it's just never ending.

Usually mid morning is when my mail comes, so off to check it.  I never really get anything exciting in there, just junk mail and bills, but Wednesdays are the days that the local sale ads come out, so I like those to see what is on sale and if anything is worth looking into.

Fixing one of my husband's favorite dinners on earth, so easy and yet if I let him, he would eat the whole skillet by himself.  Smoked sausage, potatoes and green beans.

After dinner dishes washed and drying.  I sometimes want to just leave everything in the sink and deal with it in the morning, just because usually by that time of the day I'm tuckered out, but I push through it and feel much better when the kitchen is nice and clean and tidy.

We wanted so badly to see the Lunar Eclipse, and I snapped this picture around 10pm our time.  But, unfortunately within 30 minutes of this shot, the clouds moved in and completely covered the eclipse.  My poor kiddos were so disappointed.

Yesterday was my paperwork day, and I decided that I was going to redo my budget folders.  You may think it's something fast, but it's really not, it was very time consuming but worth it.  I'm changing up our budget plan so that we can pay off as much debt as possible in the next two years.  It won't be easy but it's doable and it's imperative to our financial freedom.

I'm also setting up 3 more folders, and redoing my Home Management Binder, so yeah, lots of work to do on those.  I'll show you once it's all done.

Which leads me to today.  Oh my friends, today is my ME day, I need it so badly.  One of the main reasons I am taking today off is that I haven't been feeling too well lately.  Not sick, but just unwell and I think it's due to the fact that I haven't been drinking water and I haven't been eating my veggies and fruit as I should.  I also haven't taken my vitamins in quite a long time.

So I've decided it's time to get back on track with everything.  I started my vitamins again this morning, but every time I take Calcium, I get headaches and bit nauseous.  I've talked to my doctor about and I've tried all the tips she suggested, but unfortunately it's just something I guess I have to deal with.

I have such a headache right now, hence one of the reasons today is my relax day.

I've been drinking water for the past two days, and let's just say that the bathroom and I have gotten quite reacquainted Hahahah  It's so hard when I've fallen off the water wagon to get back onto it, but I'm determined to do it.....I just flavor my water with lemon or orange and grapes and it makes it easier.

Also, I'm going back to my green smoothies every day, either for breakfast or lunch.  My children LOVE them too and we're all getting in our intake of veggies and fruits for the day, plus it's much healthier than the junk around us.  You can check out the recipe for one of my favorites, the Mango Banana Green Smoothie, over on my food blog.

I just got done helping Nicholas with his schooling, Jasmine is working on her History paper and I'm going to work on a little crochet.  Dinner tonight is Tacos and then we have Tae Kwon Do to take the kids to, I'm hoping I'll be feeling better by then.

I am sorry this post is so long, I feel like I had so much to tell you about and once I get going, it's quite hard to stop.

Anyway, I better get on out of here. Have a great rest of Wednesday :)