About It Takes One to Tango
- Hardcover: 288 pages
- Publisher: Touchstone (April 4, 2017)
If it takes two people to fix things, what happens when one partner is deeply discouraged, or has one foot out the door? Or when one partner is desperately longing for a more vibrant and loving relationship and the other digs in his heels or think things are fine as they are? Does that mean the more optimistic partner should just call it quits?
Conventional wisdom says yes. Marriage and family therapist, Winifred Reilly, disagrees.
In IT TAKES ONE TO TANGO: How I Rescued My Marriage With (Almost) No Help From My Spouse—and How You Can, Too (Touchstone Hardcover; April 4, 2017; 978-1-5011-2582-9), Reilly assures unhappy partners that one partner, acting alone, can create far-reaching positive change, often accomplishing change in a marriage that cannot be made any other way.
Unlike most self-help books about marriage, IT TAKES ONE TO TANGO uses the author’s personal story about trying to keep her own once troubled marriage from coming apart. Like most couples she works with, she wanted a happier marriage, not a divorce. And waiting for her change-averse husband to leap up and joyfully embrace her grand plans for remodeling her marriage wasn’t working out any better for her than it was for her clients. So she decided to rescue her marriage by herself, even though, at the outset, she had no idea whatsoever what that would take.
This witty, optimistic, and inspiring guide combines psychological theory, practical advice, and personal narrative to empower readers to take a proactive, independent approach to fixing their marriage.
Connect with Winifred
I am not a big fan of self help books, actually saying I'm not a fan is putting it mildly. I don't like self help books, I find them quite boring and dry material, and I've never been able to get through a whole single book.
When I agreed to review It Takes One to Tango, I knew that I was pushing the boundaries within myself, but the subject at hand is near and dear to my heart and I realized that I needed to read this book, to help me, to help my husband, to help us as a couple.
Boy am I glad I did.
I will start by saying that it's not like the usual self help books. It is told from the author's perspective and personal experience within her very own marriage, and I think that made the difference in the world.
My husband and I have been married for almost 19 years, it will be 19 years in August. We've been together for 20 years. We have a good marriage, but we also have struggles and days were we just want to smack each other upside the head. Marriage is HARD, but I'm sure I don't need to tell you all that.
This book puts things into perspective, it takes a deeper look into what it takes to make the marriage work, especially when one partner is not too into it, or too busy, or doesn't like change, or thinks it's not going to work.
It teaches you that it takes but ONE person to make some of the most important and bigger changes that can kick start your marriage back to a peaceful and happy place. I'm always willing to do the best I can to ensure that we continue to have a good marriage.
Great book, I actually enjoyed it even though it is a self help book. :)