After my post yesterday about our roles as loving wives and how sometimes it can be misconstrued as weakness or doormats, I decided that I needed to do this 30 day challenge that I've been wanting to try for a very long time. It is one of the challenges at Revive Our Hearts.
I don't think that our husbands get the recognition and love they deserve, I don't think they are prayed for enough, I don't think they are told enough what they mean to us and it's time that we did something to change that, at least for the next 30 days.
I will be keeping a record of sorts here on the blog, letting you know each day how it went.
It's exciting to think of the changes and blessings that the next month will bring.
Here's what this month will be all about:
- You can't say anything negative about your husband . . . to your husband . . . or to anyone else, about your husband.
- Say something that you admire or appreciate about your husband. . . to your husband . . . and to someone else, about your husband!
I know that often it's easy to get frustrated and say an unkind word, to attack, to demean or to disrespect your spouse without even thinking of how hurtful that can be. I'm not going to lie and say that I've never done that, I have, but I've also tried very hard for the past few years to change the way I talk to my husband, to be calm, to be rational, to be understanding, which in turn makes him react the same way with me.
You don't have to do a whole post on your blog, although if you do as a way to keep track of the changes you're noticing in your own marriage, I would LOVE to come by and visit :)
But if you do join in, I would like it if you would leave your name on the linky list below, just so that we can see who is joining in and who is on this journey with us, I think it would be extremely helpful to us all knowing how many others are following along :)
So here's day 1, hope you're ready, because I'm really excited to get started.
"The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life." Prov. 31:11-12
To help you get started, have you ever thanked your husband for "choosing you" above all other women? He found you attractive as a person, and appreciated you. Though many circumstances in your marriage may have changed, let your husband know that you are glad God led you together, and that you want to be a blessing to him for the rest of your marriage. Let him know that he can trust you to be in his corner.
One of the best opportunities to express your gratitude is first thing in the morning. How do you greet your husband each morning? Is he confident in your love? Give him a "wake up call" that he'll never forget-a big "I love you" and an "I'm so glad I'm your wife!"
Funny enough, I just had this conversation with my husband last week and it was started by him. He sent me a text message in the middle of the day that simply said "Thank you for loving me, I love you very much".
We often tell each other just how happy we are and how much we love the other, how thankful we are to be married and even though it will be 14 years of marriage on Sunday, we love each other more than the day we met.
So go on and let your husband know how you feel and thank him for choosing you, you will be surprised how he reacts, especially if you haven't told him anything like this in a long time :)