Wednesday, August 8, 2012

30 Day Husband Encouragement Challenge - Day 3


So, how are we coming along?

I know it may very soon still to see any changes, but I am already noticing a difference with my husband and the way he acts and reacts to me and the children, and life in general.

Are you seeing something too?

Won't you share with us???

Let's move on to today's task......

Day Three:

"And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus." Phil. 4:19 

Love indeed suffers long and is kind. As you consider your Encouragement Challenge, determine today that you will not say anything negative to or about your husband. Speak kindly to him with words of genuine encouragement.

If your husband is considerate of your needs, let him know that you have noticed. Thank him for his kindness and consideration. Thank the Lord that your husband knows how to be both tough and tender.

Sometimes it's difficult for a man to be gentle, kind or tender—especially if he hasn't had role models in these areas. If he's not a considerate person, appeal to him for help without complaining. Let him know that it's hard for you to handle some things alone. Then, when he moves in to help, don't insist that he do it your way. Be glad that he is responding, and express your gratitude.

Ultimately, you can't expect your husband to make you feel more secure, loved, etc.

Remember that only God can meet the deepest needs of your heart.


I think today's is a good one.

I'm pretty blessed to have a husband that meets all my needs, that is there when I need to laugh, or there when I need to cry.  That can be gentle and tender when I'm at my most vulnerable or unwell, and that can also be assertive and take charge when the occasion arises.

One thing my husband and I have always done, and still do to this day, is to always say thank you, everytime the other does something.  Whether it's something like opening a door for me, or bringing in the groceries, turning on the AC, putting the kids to bed, taking out the trash, feeding the dogs, mowing the yard, passing the doesn't matter.....we ALWAYS say thank you.

I hope as you complete today's task, you really do so from the heart, even if it feels weird just going up to your husband and thanking him for something.  Justt do it, their reaction is worth it :)


Christy said...

I have been sending my husband an email each day based upon your daily suggestions. They have been the light of his day. He is dealing with a walk out at work and is having to work 14+ hour days. Your timing could not be better. Thank you!

Malorie Shepherd said...

Hi Sandra! Your 30 day challenge couldn't have come at a better time! My husband just went from working nights to days and it has been extremely stressful on all of us as we adjust. So when you posted you were doing a 30 day challenge for our husbands I was extremely thrilled. Moday started and I read the post about thanking NY husband fir "choosing " me. And I sat and pondered that statement for a good hour loo. And its totally true husband's do indeed choose there wife. There usually the ones who ask you to marry them after all.. anywho getting sidetracked I sat there and decided what I wanted to way to him when he got home. So as soon as he walked in the door I flooded him with thanks Ans appreciation for choosing me etc. He was thrilled but here comes #2.... he had a lousy day at work he was in such a mood he drilled Me on every little thing that was not done around the house..... this goes to the saying only nice stuff to your husband so I did. I calmly apologized and explained why things hadn't gotten done in turn made him only angrier and upset more so still calmly as i could at this point without stopping the challenge and just yelling and retaliating back I still apologized again told him I loved him and walked away to let him cool down. Day 2 we are on a tight budget... so buying any type of tool was outta the option so I simply bought a kitkat hus favorite. He got home and I presented it to him with an apology from the day before with a thanks of Appreciation for all his handiwork he does around the house. Which in turn spiraled into yet another tantrum from him for spending money on him. (At this point I'm ob verge of tears waiting to stop this challenge for it seems to be doing more bad then good but by golly I'm determined) so I apologize and walk away not saying anything mean..... day 3 we have Wednesday night Bible class. Which he was still tense so after church I sat him down and calmly explained everything the 30 day challenge (even tho I wanted it a surprise) how he's acting how I'm trying and we both apologized and all was forgiven he felt very bad for reacting the way he did but I thanked him for EVERYTHING he did and told him how much I appreciated him and I know its a struggle with the new changes happening.. but were sticking it out together. Then I read day 3 couldn't have been a better topic for the day. :) thanks for the incredible timing can't wait to see what it has in store for us now

Sandra said...

Christy, I love how this seems to have come at such a crucial time for so many of us out there. So glad the Lord led me to do this and share with you all :)

Malorie, I just want to give you such a big hug right now. Reading your comment made me feel so bad for you and I don't want this challenge to make things worse for everyone. But, what a great example you showed us on how perseverance paid off and you were able to break through that wall of anger he had. Good job, I'm so looking forward to what this challenge will do for us all in the next month :)

Anita Philipps said...

I'm here. Just really busy since the post went up. Scott and I always try to tell each other that we appreciate the other. the other night our cat got sick on our bedroom carpet and he thanked me for cleaning it up. =)