Wednesday, February 27, 2008

There's nothing worse than a parents worry!!!

Jasmine has been sick with a cold on and off. Yesterday she still had a bit of a cough in the morning but since then it seems to have dissipated, but last night when she came running to me to say goodnight, she suddenly grabbed the top of her head and yelled out that it hurt.

She went to bed and slept and when I woke her up for school this morning again she said the top of her head hurt. She got up and started walking around and said it was ok unless she turned her head from side to side or up or down, then it hurt really bad. I HATE things like that, as a mother your thoughts start going crazy and you start wondering what it is, what it could be, what it could mean. It's annoying and frustrating to me because the last thing you want as a parent is to see your child in any kind of pain.

Within 5 minutes the headache was gone and she was back to her normal bouncy self. Now I ask you parents out there, what do you think it could be? Have one of your kids had this happen before?

In my mind I'm thinking it's because she's been sick lately and coughing up a storm. I know for myself when I cough a lot it gets to a point where my head starts hurting.

So she's in school right now and I've prayed and I've placed it in the Lord's hands and ask that he make her better, but I can't get rid of the knot in my stomach or the constant worry. "I wonder if she's ok, I hope she's not getting another headache, what if the school calls?" I literally have to yell at myself to STOP and not make a mountain out of a mole hill.

Oh but isn't it so easy to do just that? With every single aspect of our lives? How often do we exaggerate things? Enter into panic mode and then later come to realize that all it was, was a waste of time where we could have been worry free.

It makes me think of the Nooma DVD's. If you've never heard them, they are by this wonderful Pastor Rob Bell, and my favorite by far is called "Rain". Here it is for you to watch.

I can totally relate to this, to being so caught up in the moment and so overwhelmed with my problems or worries that I forget and tune out the Lord's. I drown out His comforting voice and then start getting upset because He's NOT there. Correction, He is, I'm just too busy whining and complaining to realize it.

I'm feeling a little overwhelmed today, the move is suddenly become that much real, I have but 2 days to get ready for it and I wonder how I'll get it all done.

There's lists and plans to make it go as smoothly as possible and of course I've been praying for help and patience through this all. My problem is control, giving it over to someone else and not allowing myself to just relax...but I'm sure I'll be fine. I think Jasmine's headache this morning was the *straw that broke the camel's back*.

You know I'm typically a very positive person and let things slide right over me, I don't dwell on things and I don't let stuff get me down, but I also have my days, the days that I just want to crawl into bed and have someone else take care of ME. Have someone else take all the worries and the thoughts that annoy me.

That's when I realize that I've once again left the door open to the devil. You know if you let just a little crack open, he will take it. He will come right in and start placing negative thoughts in your mind, making you questions yourself and your faith. He's a sneaky bugger, so I'm closing the door and padlocking it, no more starting right this minute.

So I leave you today with a question:

How do you, personally, discern when you run into a road block, whether it is God testing you or the devil trying to block the path and merely needs to be overcome?
I would love to hear your thoughts on this. I'll tell you that for me, I've noticed that when I become complacent and start putting everything and anything ahead of God, that is when I start facing trials, when things start going wrong, my health deteriorates or something unexpected comes out etc.

Then there's times that I'm never been closer to the Lord and something will happen that I know for SURE is the devil's doing, trying to break me down, trying to stop me from achieving what I want. There's no real way to tell, I just KNOW!


Anonymous said...

I know what you mean about whether it's testing or the devil. I'm not sure that God actually puts bad things in our way Himself, but He does allow us to be tempted or to go through trial to test us...if that makes sense...and He always offers a way out. I'm not entirely sure to be honest, that's just a top-of-the-head answer.

I'm sorry Jasmine is ill. Some people do suffer from thunderclap headaches that come and go in a flash. I reckon though it's probably just a sinus/catarrhrshshshsh oh how is it spelt?...hand on I'll tab Google...catarrh from the colds she's had. I often get a headache when I get a cold.

It's just too worrying when our children are sick, I will pray that all is well. I'll also pray for a smooth stress free move for you all.

Hugs and love

Sarah x

Cheri said...

It's the worst when your kids are sick- you do start thinking the worst things.
Last month I had Bronchitis and was coughing alot. I would hold on to my head because it hurt so bad. If it keeps up though- a phone call to the Dr. couldn't hurt!

That's a hard question. I usually just keep praying and ask others to pray for discernment for me and that God would make it clear what His will is.

Karen H. said...

Good Afternoon Sandra,
I'm sorry that Jasmine isn't feeling too good. Our youngest daughter has had some of those kind of headaches before and I think it's due to a cold or sinus infection. It could be her eyes. Have you had her eyes checked lately? That could be something to consider as well. I know when our girls get sick or something happens to them, I am always thinking of the what if's. I do think it is just natural for us Parents to do that tho. My DH usually has to remind me of to think positive. He always says to me, Don't go buying trouble. It's easier said than done. We carry our child in us for 9 months and it's so hard not to think of the what if's. Most of the time I will just turn it over to God and let him handle it. I also ask prayers from my blogging friends. I have Family that prays for us as well. Now don't go letting the move make you sick my friend. I know that's easier said than done because I have been there before. Do what you can and don't sweat the other things. Just LET GO AND LET GOD. I will pray for Jasmine and that yall's move will go smoothly. Take care my friend and have a great day. May God Bless You and Yours.

Love & Hugs,
Karen H.

Katy said...

How i just want to hug ya! I know how you feel...about it all! I wouldn't fret about Jasmine's headaches...but maybe, if it keeps happening, consider taking her to the dr and get it checked out..just for peace of mind! :) I read the quote once that worrying means you aren't trusting (God). Trust Him..he has total control over her life and he loves her even more than you...isn't that hard to believe sometimes?

Sometimes I don't know why trials have come by my and my family's way...but I guess it doesn't matter why...but what you do about it. Whether it is testing or whether the devil is at you...either way...just pray and seek God through the scriptures and He will always guide your path!!! xoxo

Anonymous said...

Jake is still having the flu/fever stuff. He's had headaches with it quite a bit, so I think it's from the flu. You know your little one best, so if it feels strange to you -- get her to the doctor.

The question you asked is a great one, and one that I have asked myself. Pray about it. God will give you the answer. You'll feel it in your heart. You are right about when you put things in front of God or don't give it all up to God that things seem to always happen. Just continue to be faithful to Him and He will give you all the strength that you need, along with the answers you seek!

Love ya girlfriend!


Mari said...

I know how it is to worry about your kids. I have a daughter that is diabetic and if I let myself, I will worry myself into a state. I think the headache is related to her cold. I have one now and am hving wierd headaches with it. If you could be her for a minute and feel it yourself, you probably wouldn't worry as much!

Jillina said...

First of all, I want to tell you that the first picture on this post is proof that Jasmine is one of the three most beautiful little girls on earth. (Of course, my two have to be in there too, caus I'm biased :))

The blue of her shirt, and the orange of the flower really bring out the color of her eyes and hair, and it's just a beautiful image! You should join and post your photography, I bet you'd be a hit!

Good luck with everything else, and we'll pray for Jasmine's health. I asked the lady at the food pantry today to pray for her and the little 14yr old girl you mentioned. Surely everything will work out fine.

Love you guys!

Janice said...

Wow, that sounds like a true panic time! Headaches are never fun... and so much mystery! We have a family full of migrainers... I can relate!

As far as is it God or the devil...
I cannot tell you how many times I have prayed "Lord I am going to do this, and stop me real fast like if I am not supposed to!" Sometimes he does, other times, not. Just be always in prayer! :)

jennwa said...

First, I hope Jasmine feels better soon and I hope it is nothing more than her cold.
I hope the move is not to hard on you, I know it is a lot of work and very stressful. I hope it gos quickly and easily.

I always think God is testing me and trying to help me be a stronger person. I always think "What lesson is God trying to teach me?" If I learn it now, hopefully I will not have to go through this again to learn my lesson. Hang in there, everything will work out.

Unknown said...

HI Sandra, I think all Moms worry about their kids & often think the worst. Self talk can be our dimise so instead of contant wondering & worrying in your head, just pray God will give you comfort, I agree with many of the others He is in control over every aspect of our lives & loves our Children more than we do... Praying for you to make the move smoothly too...

Bonnie said...

Ah yes ... worry over sick kids ! We all do it ! It's a normal Mom thing! How's she doing ? Hopefully no more headaches ...

Anonymous said...

It is days like those that I wake up repeating Phil 4:13 before ever getting out of bed and then thanking God for getting me through every part of the day. Thanking God for the hedge of protection over my children, thanking God for unforeseen blessings and for the opportunity to serve Him and rebuke the enemy. I'll say a prayer for you guys Sandra.

Mississippi Songbird said...

I'll be praying for your daughter.. I don't know what it could be either. My daughter has been sick the last couple of days..She seems to be better now. I know...We worry..God bless you, and tell your daughter to get wellsoon..

Renee said...

Mom's's what we do when our kids are sick. The you tube post was wonderful! Thank you so much for posting this! I got so much out of it.

Hope you have a smooth move and enjoy your new house!


heidi @ ggip said...

Sandra, it is a good question, but I'm not sure that I can even answer it. And even if I could, would it make me deal with the situation any differently? I don't think it would.

I just said a little prayer for you.

Brandy said...

I hope your little girl starts feeling better. I know it is so hard when the kids get sick. As far as obsticles, I am so bad to stress over them and try to deal with them myself, then I realize I am not alone and begin talking to God, which is what I should have done in the first place. I know that when I talk to him, it gets better, and better and better! Hope you get better to, a little less stressed. Take care!

Karen H. said...

Good Morning Sandra,
Well I thought you would have been up by now. I have my SCT Recipe up for today. When you put yours up and put the Mr. Linky on, would you sign my name and add Hamburger Helper as my Recipe? I sure would appreciate it. I've been awake since around 3:00a.m. and I am having my bowl of cereal. After I finish it, I'm going to go lay back down and get me a nap. Take care my friend and have a great day. May God Bless You and Yours.

Love & Hugs,
Karen H.

smilnsigh said...

"I would love to hear your thoughts on this."

You asked...

When crap happens, it's random fate.

It's just part of life.

Life is make up of both smiles and sighs. {Where have you read that before, hu?} That's just life.

We all need to accept that. And do what we can. And get up, when we fall down.

It's all just random fate. Unless we drive down the highway at 90 miles an hour with our eyes closed, of course. And that's sheer stupidity.

But all the rest ~~ random fate. Crap doesn't happen because we are bad. Or the Creator is testing us. Or some make-believe Devil, is at us. It's just the way life is.

I repeat, you asked...

And as to Jasmine, when was the last time she had a general physical? Maybe that might be a good idea, especially after a winter like this has been.